The birth debrief is an important part of postpartum care. It usually takes place within a few weeks after birth and allows you to review your labour experience with a midwife. Many parents carry questions, emotional reactions, or gaps in memory that need space to be processed.

During the debrief, you go through the entire birth: early labour, active phase, pushing, interventions, pain relief, and the baby’s condition at birth. The midwife has access to the medical record and can explain why certain decisions were made and how your body responded. This often brings clarity and reduces lingering worries.

The debrief also focuses on emotions. You are invited to talk about pain, fear, joy, support, loss of control, or anything that felt difficult. Many find the conversation grounding and healing — sometimes it helps close emotional loops that remained open after the birth.

The midwife also reviews postpartum recovery: bleeding, stitches, breastfeeding, sleep, hormones, and mental health. If your experience was traumatic or you show signs of PTSD, you may be referred to a specialist clinic.

Understanding your birth is an important step in healing.

Alma’s tips

• Write down questions beforehand — memory can be foggy in early parenthood.

• It’s okay to cry or feel strongly during the conversation.

• Ask for explanations until you truly understand.

• Seek additional support if the experience continues to affect you.