Sexual desire and pleasure aren’t fixed — they shift with life, relationships, and biology. That doesn’t mean something’s wrong; it means your body, mind, and experiences are constantly reshaping how you connect to intimacy.

Hormones like estrogen and testosterone affect tissue sensitivity, lubrication, and blood flow. As these levels change throughout your cycle — or across life stages — your experience of pleasure may change too. Some times, your body feels open and responsive; other times, more distant or unsure. Stress, sleep, birth control, health, and emotional well-being also play a role.

But sex isn’t only biology. Safety, self-esteem, and communication matter just as much. When relationships shift, or when you do, it can feel like your body speaks a new language. That can be confusing — or it can be the start of something more aware and connected.

Alma’s tips:

Meet your body as it is today, not as you remember it. Explore gently, without expectation. If something feels different, ask yourself — is my body saying “not now,” or does it just need comfort and warmth? Desire doesn’t disappear; it transforms. It often returns when it’s listened to, not demanded.