For many women, intimacy feels different during menopause. The skin and tissues become thinner, drier, and more sensitive. Blood flow decreases, and sensations may change. Sex can become painful, and desire may fade — or it might still be there, but the body responds differently. It can feel confusing, even sad.

This isn’t about something being wrong; it’s about hormones affecting how the body functions. As estrogen drops, the vaginal lining becomes thinner and less elastic, leading to dryness, irritation, and discomfort during sex. It’s not a loss — it’s a signal that your body needs care and adaptation.

Desire also lives beyond hormones. It’s shaped by sleep, stress, relationships, and emotional connection. For some, freedom from pressure brings new curiosity; for others, desire takes time to return. Both are normal.

There are ways to help: local estrogen, lubricants, patience, and communication all make a difference. What matters most is to stay kind to yourself and not stay silent about discomfort.

Alma’s advice:

• Use lubricants and gentle, fragrance-free products.

• If sex hurts, don’t ignore it — seek help. Pain isn’t something you should accept.

• Talk with your partner about what’s changing, without blame or shame.

Your body hasn’t closed any doors. It’s simply asking to be met with understanding, care, and time.