Orgasms can change during menopause. For some women, they become softer or harder to reach; for others, they disappear for a while. It can feel as if your body no longer “wakes up,” even when desire is there.

This is partly due to reduced blood flow in the pelvic area as estrogen levels drop. Nerves become less sensitive, and the muscles that contract during orgasm lose some tone. Stress, distraction, and self-judgment can make release even more difficult.

But orgasm isn’t just physical — it’s also emotional. As your body changes, it may need new ways to find pleasure again. That might mean more time, different touch, or redefining what pleasure means for you now.

Alma’s advice:

• Explore without expectation — curiosity awakens pleasure.

• Strengthen your pelvic floor; it improves sensation and control.

• Focus less on “the goal” and more on connection and presence.

Your body hasn’t lost its ability to feel. It’s simply discovering a new rhythm.