Many teenagers believe that oral sex is completely safe because it doesn’t feel like “real sex.” But the body doesn’t make that distinction. Several sexually transmitted infections can spread through oral contact, such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes and HPV. That doesn’t mean you need to be afraid — it just means it’s important to understand what your body needs to stay healthy.

One thing that makes oral sex confusing is that it often feels more casual or less serious. Because of that, many people forget about protection. But mucous membranes exist both in the mouth and on genitals, and when they touch, infections can spread. Another common misunderstanding is that only the person receiving oral sex is at risk, when in reality both people can be affected.

The good news is that the risks can be reduced. Using a condom for oral sex on a penis or a dental dam for oral sex on a vulva or anus provides protection, even if these tools are less commonly talked about. You don’t have to use them perfectly or every time — what matters is knowing your options and making choices that feel safe and respectful.

The biggest issue isn’t the infections themselves, but the silence around the topic. Many teenagers feel embarrassed to ask questions, which leads to confusion. But knowledge empowers you to make decisions that align with your comfort and your values.

Alma’s tips

You never have to do anything you don’t feel safe with. And you don’t need perfect information before asking questions. If you’re unsure about risks or how protection works during oral sex, you can always come to me. I’ll explain everything gently so you can feel confident in your choices.