Talking about protection can feel awkward or embarrassing, and many teenagers worry that bringing it up makes them look too serious or too inexperienced. But talking about protection has nothing to do with experience. It has everything to do with safety, care and taking responsibility for your own body. It is one of the most mature conversations you can have, even if the words feel difficult at first.

Many young people fear the reaction of the other person. They worry someone might think they’re being dramatic, overly cautious or distrustful. But if someone reacts with irritation, pressure or makes you feel guilty for wanting protection, that is a clear sign they are not ready for sex. Someone who respects you will never argue against your safety.

The conversation itself doesn’t need to be complicated. You don’t need fancy explanations or perfect timing. A simple sentence is enough: “I want us to use protection because it makes me feel safe.” That’s all. Your feelings are enough reason. You are allowed to ask for what you need.

Protection is not about assuming the worst. It is about valuing your health and the health of whoever you are with. It shows kindness, honesty and a willingness to take care of each other.

Alma’s tips

If saying the words feels scary, practice alone first. Feeling nervous doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong – it means you care. And if someone ever refuses to use protection or makes you feel guilty for asking, that’s your sign to walk away. You deserve to be with someone who listens to you and respects your boundaries.