Sometimes things happen that you never asked for — a breakup, a move, a new school, someone getting sick, or a friend pulling away. Life changes, and you have to follow. It can feel like the ground disappears under your feet, like you’ve lost control.

Humans can handle more than they think, but change takes energy. The brain loves what’s familiar — routines, safety, familiar faces. When that’s disrupted, your brain has to adjust, and that creates stress. It doesn’t mean you’re weak; it means your body is trying to understand something new.

It’s also normal to feel many emotions at once — sadness, anger, relief, guilt. None of those are wrong. Grieving doesn’t mean you’re stuck in the past; it means you’re processing what’s happened.

Alma’s tips:

Find something small that feels steady each day — the same breakfast, a favorite song, a short walk, or talking to someone you trust. Little routines act like anchors when everything else is shifting. And remember: you don’t have to understand change to survive it. Your brain and body are built for adaptation. It takes time, but you will find your balance again — even in what’s new.