Genital herpes is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections, yet also one of the least openly discussed. This silence often makes teenagers more worried than they need to be. Herpes is caused by a virus that spreads through skin-to-skin contact during sex, and it can pass on even when no sores are visible. Some people experience itching, small blisters or discomfort during outbreaks, while others go long periods with no symptoms at all. Most people with herpes live completely normal lives, and the condition usually becomes easier to manage over time.

Many teens fear that having herpes means they have done something wrong or that it reflects something about their character. But the truth is that herpes is extremely common. Many people carry the virus without knowing it, and it says nothing about who they are. It doesn’t mean someone was careless or unhygienic. It simply means they came into contact with a virus that spreads easily.

Herpes is lifelong, but that doesn’t mean constant symptoms. Most outbreaks are short and triggered by things like stress, illness or being run-down. There are medications that can ease the symptoms and shorten outbreaks, and understanding how the virus works can make it far less frightening.

The most important thing for teens to know is that herpes does not define you. It doesn’t determine your worth, your future or your ability to have healthy relationships. It is an infection, not an identity. Knowing how it spreads and how to protect yourself gives you control, not fear.

Alma’s tips

If you ever worry about herpes or think you might have symptoms, you don’t have to handle it alone. You’re always allowed to ask questions, express fear or feel uncertain. I’m here to help you understand your body gently and clearly, without judgement, so you can feel safe again.