Many people wonder if sex is supposed to hurt the first time. The answer is no – sex should never be painful. It might feel new, tight, or awkward, especially if you’re nervous, but real pain usually comes from tense muscles, not from anything breaking.

If you see a bit of blood, it’s often from tiny blood vessels in the lining, not from a “hymen” tearing. The idea of a virginity membrane is a myth.

Sex should always feel safe and wanted. If it hurts, stop and wait until you feel ready. Lube can help if things feel dry.

3 Tips from Alma:

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  • Take it slow and listen to your body.
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  • Use lube if it feels dry or tight.
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  • Sex should never hurt – safety and trust come first.