Sexuality often changes after childbirth, both physically and emotionally. The body needs time to heal: the pelvic floor has worked intensely, tissues may be tender, stitches may still be healing, and hormonal changes — especially during breastfeeding — can lower libido and reduce natural lubrication.

There is no “right time” to resume sex. Most providers suggest waiting until bleeding has nearly stopped and stitches have healed (around 4–6 weeks), but readiness varies widely. Sex should never be painful — if it is, stop.

Vaginal dryness is extremely common postpartum. Lubricants can make a significant difference and are safe to use. Start slowly, with touch, closeness, and conversation. Orgasms may feel different at first as the pelvic floor adjusts.

Seek help if intercourse remains painful, if you feel heaviness or pressure, or if fear makes intimacy difficult. Sexuality after childbirth is a journey — not a test to pass.

Alma’s tips

• Wait until you feel ready, not until a timeline says so.

• Use lubricant — it’s normal to need it.

• Talk openly with your partner about fears and feelings.

• Get help if pain persists — you deserve comfort and pleasure.