Desire isn’t only physical — it’s built on presence, safety, and self-trust. Losing desire doesn’t mean something’s broken. It often means your body is protecting you from overload, stress, or connection that doesn’t feel genuine.

When life is fast, full of pressure and responsibility, the body may turn off its pleasure signals. It prioritizes survival over intimacy. Cultural expectations — how often, how strongly, or in what way you’re “supposed” to want sex — can add another layer of stress.

Finding your way back isn’t about regaining the “old” desire; it’s about reconnecting with yourself. What sparks curiosity? What feels safe? What makes you exhale again? Sometimes, the path back to pleasure starts not in the bedroom, but in rest, laughter, or simply feeling at home in your skin.

Alma’s tips:

Think of desire as a conversation, not a demand. Your body wants to be met, not convinced. Begin with touch that has no goal — warmth, closeness, skin against skin. Explore slowly and kindly. And if desire feels far away, be patient. You don’t need to chase it — just invite it, on your own terms.